“Psychologists have found that people’s belief in a just world helps explain how they react to innocent victims of negative life circumstances. People become cognitively frustrated when presented with stories of victims who suffer through little fault of their own. They can deal with this frustration in two ways: they can conclude that the world is an unjust place, or they can decide that the victim is somehow to blame. Most people reconcile their psychological distress by blaming the victim. Even when we know that suffering is undeserved, it is psychologically easier to blame the victim rather than give up the idea that the world is basically fair.”
This is also referred to as The Just World Fallacy. If the world is “good and just,” then bad things must only happen to people who “deserved it or caused it.” Except the world is not good and just. And despite individual people choosing to be good and/or just, structures, institutions and systems remain corrupt overall. Primarily through the media is the idea that bad only happens to those who deserve suffering conveyed. Add this to the manifestations of oppression based on gender, race, class, nationality, citizenship, sexual orientation, size, etc. and things like rape culture for example, thrive. And even ideologies that appear “harmless” to some people like prosperity gospel, positivity culture, the law of attraction and American exceptionalism are based on ignoring systemic inequality and focusing on exceptional cases. They stand firm in this particular fallacy.
See, it requires quite a bit from a person to be willing to challenge the world as is. It is psychologically, emotionally and intellectually easier to victim blame. It also helps people protect their psyches from the thought that something bad could happen to them or worse, that they are the causes of those bad things happening to others.
Still…it’s unacceptable. Victim blaming = unacceptable. The right thing to do is listen and support victims/survivors of anything and the oppressed of any form of oppression and work to deconstruct the structures, institutions and systems that make it possible. On an individual level, it requires accountability.
This is also why many children blame themselves for their own abuse. For them, being a bad child is less scary than living in a world where people abuse innocent children. Especially if it’s their parents. Better to think that one day you might be “good” enough to make the abuse stop than realize that a person with incredible power over your health, safety, home, freedom, and happiness is fundamentally wrong.
I’ve gotten this a lot from abled people when it comes to my disability status (http://disabledfeminists.com/2010/08/07/just/).
“Even after she’d called their bluff, the college still required Chandler to resubmit her doctor’s note every semester. Meanwhile, she says, “the school buildings were an accessibility nightmare. Apparently no one looked up ADA guidelines before cramming the hallways and classrooms full of tables and desks. The classrooms in particular were stuffed with desks to the point that it was difficult for even a small, skinny, non-disabled person to get around. I emailed the disability services office about it and was roundly ignored. The hallways finally got fixed after I emailed the VP of student affairs.””
Pasadena, CA-based artist Cody Williams handcrafts these awesome mounted plush heads of yetis and other fantastic creatures. Each faux furry trophy head is created along with a zoological description, including diet, behavior and personality traits. They’re available via Cody’s Etsy shop, Yeti and Friends.
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-bruh- said: What are some good lipsticks that are under $10?
NYX Butter Lipsticks $6. Super creamy, pigmented and some in tons of fun and neutral colors.
Rimmel Kate Moss Lipsticks (black packaging)/Rimmel Kate Moss Matte Lipsticks (red packaging) $5. Both are super pigmented and creamy. Even the matte shades are creamy and not drying for matte lipsticks.
Maybelline The Buffs Lipsticks $6. Price varies on drugstore. They have a nude for every single skin tone it’s awesome! Pinky nudes, beige nudes, warm nudes, deeper browns.
Maybelline Vivids Lipsticks $6. Super pigmented, creamy, rich shades.
Maybelline Color Elixirs $7. These liquid lipsticks have more a glossy finish. Almost like a super pigmented lipgloss but with better staying power. They have great shades from corals, bright pinks, pinky nudes and purples.
NYX Matte Lipsticks $6. Matte but not drying, awesome shade selection and creamy.